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Disappointment. That's the word that runs my life.

I don't even know if my last (longest and most serious) relationship was good or bad lol

Carol Tuttle teaches about the 4 energy types and how a lot of Times we can get shut down as children if in dysfunction. She also teaches how to find our true nature again! She’s helped me tremendously and now I know my own children’s types and am teaching them how to hold to their own power. No one can take our power away, we decide to give it away. Anyway search carol tuttle and she will amplify what Patrick is teaching so well. Thank you Patrick for such helpful content.

awesome vid again. thanks!

Thanks for sharing Patrick. My dad died recently and I'm struggling to feel. Emotion only comes out briefly but that's how it always is for me. I'm always feeling checked out or in " shut down mode".

19:30- 19:38 Finally someone said it! I grew up in an emotionally abusive family full of neglect- their argument was always "Well we fed you & housed you what are you complaining about?" Other family members were always more important, I had to endure emotional abuse and ridicule because I needed to "learn how to be patient with other people", etc. was always left out of all the family gatherings and told to F*ck off. I feel like parents- especially older generations fail to realize that children have more than physical needs- children have emotional needs that have to be met too. Unfortunately, for children like us who were neglected or abused we often try to find our home in other people.

wow ! I remember as a teenager, a visiting friend being shocked that I didn't react when I discovered my beloved pet had died. I was upset of course but I didn't say or do anything. I just kind of walked off knowing I would have to come back later and handle it on my own. I also remember someone gushing about my wedding day saying "it must have been the most romantic day of your life" and I had to admit that it really wasn't , it was just a day that had to be organised and got through like any other. I suppose I really have suppressed my emotions more than I realised. Thanks for the awesome insights Patrick the content is so very helpful 😊

Thanks for sharing this. ❤❤ Love

My therapist always said "Don't should all over yourself" I can so relate to anticlimatic feelings. That really confused me.

I tossed the good guys aside to run after the bad guys with long hair. Hey, it was the 70s! Wound up marrying a Narc. Divorced him 7 yrs later. Now I have cats. They're probly narcs too😂

Love this!

Is there a more specific term for the “all good” personality. I would like to read and research more on that.

I could pay someone to follow me around full time and say ‘whoa that doesn’t sound like a good person to date’ and they’d never be out of a job

All of these personalities are the way that I have been described by others since I was a toddler. No wonder I have never been able to figure out who I really am. Im made up of a solid combination of poor modeling and trauma responses so anything I do or say feels "wrong" & I have a difficult time keeping any kind of relationship

Some pretty oddly specific examples - just hoping you got rid of that yogi sociopath with a clean apartment 😅

I can relate to both sides to a degree. I have a very toxic father, but I have a very good connection to my mother and especially to my sisters.

I went no contact as a teen (I'm 51 now) without even knowing what no contact was at the time. I moved out at 16 and I avoided my parents like the plague. I just didn't have the headspace for them in my life as all they did was cause so much trauma within me when I needed them most - as a child. My Father died in 2016 and my Mother died in 2020. I am now free.

Great video! I must say that the white thing on the ceiling reminds me of a hornets nest. And I couldn’t stop looking at it.

Im 51. My parents died in 2016 (Father) and 2020 (Mother). Due to the childhood emotional neglect and the beatings I received in my childhood into my teens, I feel like a weight of expectation has been lifted from my shoulders in order to meet the needs of my parents who gave me nothing when I needed them most. They expected my love and respect. They did nothing to earn it.

I didn’t hear stuff like that. Yeah my family was toxic but I also got defended by my Grandma, who was also a Scorpio. She beat my grandfather half to death with an ashtray in a closet for hitting her, I swear to god. I’m just like her too. I have a very evil and narcissistic cousin who was raised with us and my aunt has no idea how I was never afraid of her, and I never was afraid of her. Whatever she dealt got dealt right back, she was afraid of me

i watched my uncle who proudly boasts being the big godly man for adopting us. at family gatherings, punch the fuck out of my older in the face just for cutting apiece of foam off by like a quarter inch. thats just small part of the 17 years in that hell hole. my older brother is now MIA and in the streets using. we received nothing but negative emotions from him.

Holy fuck i was not expecting to get it on the first type. The reactor is exactly how my mom is. Everything was about how it affected her. Christmas was about costing her money. Playdates were about her needing to spend time on cleaning the house. By high school, I had to do everything spontaneously or else her reactions would be unbearable. These past couple of years I shut christmas down entirely because she would only get gifts that she wanted me to have and then go on about how awful she was and how much everything cost if i didnt love them. I'd rather get nothing at all. School was hell. I got almost straight As but had difficulty with daily assignments due to my adhd, so she decided the ONLY reason i did well in school was if she hounded me because i clearly was incapable of doing anything without her over my shoulder. In my modern job hunt she is much the same, calling regularly to make sure im doing enough because clearly my struggle to afford rent isnt enough motivation for her. Nowadays i under react to most everything. She made a whole deal about other peoples clothes or behavior and now I purposefully remain straight faced at anything and everything. "That man has a skirt on!!" "Yea people do that..." or "She has an iguana on her shoulder!!" "Yea some people have reptiles as pets..." even if i also think the iguana is cool. I find it very difficult to make a big deal out of literally anything because i associate that judgemental sounding style of response with her.

My parents have never been right about anything. Seriously. They get duped, lose money, fall prey to a cult like religion etc etc. They tell me I'm a loser but they are THE worst judge of character in general that I've ever met. Due to when they were born and dumb luck they fell into money. Most of their wealth is due to a welfare program in the early 70s that no longer exists that helped my mom buy a house. I've wasted decades taking their advice. When it wasn't wrong because of their own ignorance it was wrong because they find it fun to give me bad advice on purpose to watch me struggle for their entertainment. I just started ignoring them 5 years ago and my life has taken off. I just have to not get side tracked from bitterness thinking about how much farther I'd be in life if I'd cut ties as a teen like I knew I should have.

Not so much a ghost, nor "are we good" but more "invisible." The mantra is, "If I can't be a positive help, I will just go away so that I'm not bothering you." At its worst, it is, "I am so sorry! I will disappear so you can be happy again. I didn't mean to be a bother." Forget getting therapy, that would bother someone.

Thank you patrick! This really struck me because I wonder this all the time. I don't really feel anything. I've started ketamine treatments and I am feeling much better. I'm not sure how to judge whether I'm feeling "normal" because I haven't felt normal for most of my life. I don't know what normal feels like. My emotions are very stunted. I'm hoping that will get better as I continue with this treatment.

❤ Wow! I want you as my 'rent. But I know I can be that for.my IC and for my me now. BTW, cool hair. I love the new do! Rock on, cool Father Guy!!🤸‍♂️🤸‍♀️🤸‍♂️🤸‍♀️🤸‍♂️🤸‍♀️

Seeing my entire life, personality, n trauma routines encapsulated in one video, make me feel a lil less alone (So glad I found this channel, these explanations and words of encouragement rlly do help, god bless🙏)

Group therapy changed my life. Sometimes it can really suck, but we want to get better, and that's the only way...

Got that serious white boy dance happening there😂😂😂

What if i'm a little bit of everything. What do i do?

So adorable 😍😍🩷🩷😭😭

We were conditioned early on that celebratory occasions were reserved for the toxic family member (mother), and we were only allowed to exist.

That's abuse? (Rethinking my whole life)

I want to share this with someone that drains me, but I hesitate because of the draining conversations I imagine it will open a door to.

I’d call that trauma-induced blindness.

All of that. Very relatable. For me personally, this became different leasier?) Once I had my son. Teaching a toddler empathy, right/wrong, and how to be gentle to pets/people has really helped my own inner child immensly. I never got excited about things or felt happy as a child and I wasn't even sure if I knew what happy felt like until I got to be a parent

I am just at this moment going through this. Why am i wondering how I should feel? Why am i censoring my feelings? This is a good wake up for me. I need to feel what is really there.